Add to this the following:
She's a single mom who experienced a traumatic separation. She receives no child support, and he left her with nothing. (Fortunately, the divorce was relatively smooth, and she has sole custody).
She has an extremely long commute each day to work (up to 2 hours each way), typically standing on a bus, and so her commute isn't even relaxing enough to read. I think she lost her itunes, so she doesn't listen to music, or downloaded books. Or maybe this makes her motion-sick. I can't quite remember, although we've had this conversation. Sorry!
She has to be in to work by 8:30am, with the 2 hour commute, and after getting her 6yr old daughter dressed, fed and driven to school (fortunately, her fiancé is helping with this task more and more).
Her work load continuously increases, to the point where she is beyond overwhelmed, but…
Since she's a Type A and extremely proficient and intelligent, they continue putting more work on her, because she gets it done.
She's planning a wedding and a move for this summer, which has amazing perks, and a few added stresses, including enrolling her daughter in a new school.
All this being said, she assumed she was too stressed to possibly become pregnant, and she and her fiancé let their guard down one night in terms of family planning.
You guessed it, she's pregnant. More stress! And nausea!
I giggled for a long time when she told me… perhaps not the right response, but she knew it came from my heart. I'm happy for her, as I know it'll all work out, but I also appreciate her anxiety. I would also be anxious. Raising two children is a HUGE responsibility. And, quite honestly, I wouldn't want to be pregnant, either. She wanted more children, just not now. Infamous last words of many, many couples ;)
I did what I could do... offer my ear, and offer her healing sessions... as my friend, she gets as many as she wants, as long as I have the time and energy to give her sessions with authenticity and attention. I want her to be as relaxed as possible. I always want this for her (she's AMAZING!), and I especially want this for her now, since the baby swims in her thoughts and energy. I want him/her to swim in still, peaceful waters!
She's received two sessions in the last week... one distant session while she was still asleep, and one last night in person.
Immediately after her distant session, her morning sickness stopped. She told me that when she's pregnant, when the morning sickness starts, it increases consistently for the next few months. She had been sick four times the previous morning, and forced herself to stay awake and somewhat productive throughout the day. Since the distance session, she has had no morning sickness, and only one wave of nausea. She also immediately felt calmer and more relaxed.
Ummm.... wow.
Before you read any further, please note that I cannot diagnose any condition, nor claim to heal any condition. Also, EVERYONE's experience is different. My friend has morning sickness, and two sessions happen to have lessened this nausea for her. If you're pregnant and experiencing morning sickness, this may not be the experience you'll have... though you will have the healing that is perfect for you (more on this was in my initial write-up about Reconnective Healing).
We had an in-person session last night, and below are a few of her comments.
First, let me share with you, my faithful reader, that my friend knows very, very little about Reconnective Healing. I figured the less she knew, the better, so that she had no pre-conceived notions of what she "should" feel/experience. I simply told her to relax, and if she day-dreamed or slept, fine... she's exhausted, don't fight it. I also said if she experiences any physical sensations or movements, it's all fine. She can allow the sensations and movements to increase, if she's having fun with it, or she can tell them to stop, if she doesn't enjoy it. She is in control, and the Universe has her best interest at heart.
Here's what she reported:
She immediately felt calm, which she admitted was strange, because she was extremely wound up going into the session, and typically can't completely relax where we were. (Although where the session was held was the most convenient and agreed upon location for us, I hadn't thought she might not be able to relax there. Thankfully, she did.) She blanked out, saw nothing, heard nothing (even the city noises below), "kinda forgot" I was even there, and day dreamed... even though she doesn't typically day dream. In her dream, she was in bed in her new home, with a full belly, and the walls were painted blue (the walls currently aren't blue). It was a peaceful feeling.
For physical sensations, she felt pulling, and some tingles, which she described as "weird." She told me it was weird because I moved so quietly that she never really knew where I was, but yet she always figured where I was because she felt pulling and/or tingling (remember, this is a hands-off modality... more about the modality is in in my previous post). A few times, she said she quickly opened her eyes just to check, and yep: she felt pulling at her feet, and there I was, down by her feet. Or she felt pulling at her head, and yep: there I was, up by her head. The entire time she felt pulling in her belling, stretching up through her body (up through her chest, down through her legs, but that this was a comforting feeling.)
She also immediately felt pressure pulling up into her head like a headache, but not really a headache. She hadn't had a headache prior to the session, and it immediately culminated in her head (crown), and dissipated, but didn't fully leave.
She also felt like vomiting at one point, but that wave of nausea quickly passed.
(My teachers explained that pains are generally agreed to be when the body is letting go of things, and "pain, or like-pain" is considered a remembrance /reminder of past pain that is now leaving and saying good-bye. The reason I put "pain, or like-pain" in quotes is because, usually, when asked, the client says it was pain, but it wasn't typical pain, it was kinda like pain... hence, "pain, or like-pain." :)
After the session, I asked if I could put my hands on her belly, she said yes (hands-on treatment can feel really, really good, during which the practitioner lightly places his/her hands on a particular body part and just rests them there. Ahhhhh. She said she didn't really feel anything other than warmth with this, but we both cracked up when I said I was creating peaceful, still waters. Ahhh, laughter is medicine for the soul. Happy swimming, brave little fella!
She woke cold and hungry (I get hungry when I'm being healed, too!).
We went for dinner, honoring her craving for spelt bread and olive oil. After dinner, she felt faint and a bit nauseous, and so I gave her some more hands-on healing when we were at her car. I don't know if this helped; I didn't ask. But we drove to the river and enjoyed a nice walk and talk. So great for both of us to have solo girl-time!!
Again, please remember everyone's experience is different, but everyone experiences the healing that is perfect for them.
As a follow up, my friend's morning sickness did return. And so we accept that she received the healing the Universe intended for her… perhaps it's not what either of us went in to the session hoping for, but we trust that even though we're not aware of what this is, it's unfolding in ways we can only imagine. And that is life, is it not?
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